Coming Out

Among Gay and Lesbians, both young and old, coming out is unfortunately an issue. Before one takes the big leap, there is the constant fear of people or even just certain select people finding out about your sexuality. What will they think? How will they react? Will they disown me? These are a few of MANY questions that undoubtedly run through the minds of those who have yet to make the big step.

So what should you do? Obviously this is one singular opinion, but there honestly is no right answer. Many people may tell you that you need to wait until you are ready, but in all honesty, very few people are ever completely ready to come out to their loved ones. Even with the most accepting parents and friends, there is still some semblance of doubt within you that you may be the exception and they won't be so accepting since it's you. In this case, it's very unlikely and you should have a smoother transition. For others, it may be a little bumpier, but trust me when I tell you that things will get better in the long run. No matter how harsh the initial reaction may be, it's caused by shock and fear that will diminish at some point whether it takes a short amount of time or a decent chunk of time. For all you know, your loved ones might surprise you and be completely accepting/understanding about who you are.

No matter what, you are still the person you've always been and you didn't suddenly become gay or decide to be gay. It is something that over time you grew to understand that you were. You can't simply wait forever until you're COMPLETELY ready because that day may never come for many people. It needs to be done eventually because it is not fair that you should have to hide who you are for the sake of others.

I guess my biggest advice would be just to prepare yourself. Run through the scenarios in your head, come out with answers to potential questions that they may have about anything, and just try to relax as best as you can. It's like preparing for a speech or a big project. In the long run though, the people who really loved you all along will still be there for you. You can do this.